Most people experience frustrations at work from time to time. Whether it is due to constant pressure, last-minute demands or irritating colleagues, at some stage, most of us reach a point where we want to vent our frustrations in the office.
Frustrations happen, and venting is an easy way to blow off steam. However, just because it happens doesn’t mean it’s ok. Constantly venting can spread negativity and bring your colleagues down. It can also be disruptive and annoying to the rest of your team.
Minimise the impact
Before you decide to vent your frustration, pause and take a moment to think about how you would like others to think of you at work. Do you want to be seen as a competent, intelligent leader? Unless you want to be known as someone negative who complains a lot, it’s probably best not to vent in the open office. If you really do need to talk to someone about the challenges you are currently facing, perhaps find a quiet room where you can close the door and discuss your issues with a trusted colleague or friend in the office.
Balance the positive and the negative
It is very easy to point out the things that are wrong. There is always something negative to focus on, no matter where you work. However, it is important to force yourself to notice the positive things too. If you challenge yourself to be a bit more observant, you will notice plenty of positive things happening around the office.
Write it down
Write down the things that are frustrating you so that you can better understand the problem. This can also help you to anticipate the issues that trigger your stress so that you can address them in future, before they become bigger problems. Writing things down can also help you to de-stress as the act of doing so is effectively venting your frustration (silently). This can also help you to arrange your thoughts and may even result in you coming up with a solution to the issue.
Invest time coming up with solutions
You can vent about things as much as you like but nothing will change unless you come up with some solutions. Try to spend some time thinking about how to solve the problem itself rather than focusing on the frustration caused by the symptoms of the problem.
May 26th, 2017